Just isn’t what it used to be…
I am a waitress. Have been for, well, a very long time.
A few days ago, a mom came in with her boys – about 10 or 11 years old. They ordered their drinks and she asked if we had a drink menu, she needed alcohol.
I could relate – I mean, I do have two children after all…
I looked at the boys and grinned –
“Ok guys – what did you do?”
Mom- Them? Not a thing – this is the best part of my day.
I was thrilled to hear that. It has been such a long time since I have seen a family out to dinner really interacting with each other. It is a very rare sight.
People come in with their children, of all ages. They immediately set up a tablet with cartoons or something for the toddler to watch. The 6-year-old or so is given one to play games on and the tweens and teens are staring at their phones – Facebook, snapchat whatever it is these days.Then the adults pull out their phones. They stare at their phones or call someone and talk to anyone but their family.
Aside from the pain in the ass this is for a server –
“Hi, how are you guys doing today?”
“Can I get you all something to drink?”
When I was a mom to younger children, we all talked. We used the crayons and that activity sheet/ kids menu all restaurants seem to have. We begged the toddler not to throw his pacifier on the floor again. We laughed at the faces made by the 3-year-old when we gave him a lemon.
Now? Parents don’t even realize that the kids menu is on that paper. The crayons don’t get opened. The paper ends up on the floor. The child throws his pacifier on the floor and no one notices.
When did this happen?
The DirectTv commercials…cell phone companies – they offer the ability to “take your tv with you” and show families camping ..sitting around a fire with their tablets and phones watching television. Why even bother going anywhere? Isn’t the point of going somewhere to do something different?
I have quit taking my phone into the restaurant when we go to dinner. There is nothing going on that I need to interrupt my family time for. There is no one I can not call back in 30 minutes when I am finished eating.
I wish everyone would. I am tired of trying to talk to people who can’t look up from their phones… or talk mumble while looking down at their phone and expect me to hear them.
This is the modern family –
I do realize that all families are not like this – I wish none of them were.