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Another trip around the sun..


As another trip around the sun is complete and the next is set to begin, I am left to ponder the meaning of life..

What-EVER.

I got nothing. A rather uneventful year. Not especially good, but no where near bad ..just  a year. No inspirational words. I didn’t find myself – didn’t really look this year, just went with the flow..

Wait. I have that! I decided last year to quit stressing. Stressing does not solve anything and just makes wrinkles.

An example…

The usual fun was had with my sis-in-law at our annual Kenny Chesney show

..until she and I got separated as we were heading out of the (Georgia) Dome. We had ridden with some of her friends and I remembered where we parked – the green lot – but not where we parked. 

So I walked. I took an adventure that led me to meet two couples from Tennessee, who allowed me to use their cell phone. I met a group who had set up a Tiki Bar  on the side of the road – I stopped, they allowed me to use their cell phone and have a beer with them. After that call, I remembered that my phone was dead – which was why I left it in the van. So, a lot of good all of these calls were doing…

I met a homeless man, who I did, against my usual personal rule, gave money to – he was playing an awesome set on the bongos. I met someone who worked at  the Dome while sitting at the bus stop taking out my contacts..

The best of all was meeting one of Kenny’s roadies!!

See? There he is!

See? There he is!

I did beg him to take me to Kenny (and if he had…I guess a tour bus woulda had to bring me home, cause the group never woulda found me!)..he said no 😦  – but he gave me some guitar picks that (at least I pretend) Kenny had used…

As I walked more (in a circle, around the Dome) I came upon some police officers, and all that was missing from the scene were cameras and someone singing “Bad Boys” ( NOT for me, but for the drunkards talking to them before me..).. as the drunkards walked away, and my conversation began with the officers…

I heard my name and one of our group was running towards us…I guess maybe they thought I had gotten in trouble. Nope. Just asking for directions – or a ride 😉 ….

Through all of this, I coulda stressed (Lord knows the group was and I felt awful about that)..but what good would it have done? None. I wouldn’t have found them any quicker. I knew if I stayed close to the building, eventually – we would find each other. And we did. Was quite an interesting night…

So, this year, that is what I learned, and it has made life much more enjoyable.

Happy 29 35 39 OK…40 – something to me! 

Lordy, Lordy…look who’s forty..


Not me. Nope. Nuh uh.

Oh, alright, I admit it. Today is not the 15th anniversary of my 25th birthday. Today is my 40th birthday, but you know what? It is just a number. You are only as old as you feel.. some days, I feel 25..and some days, I feel 80! (teenagers and weeks of insomnia will do that to you!)

Who remembers when 40 was old? I remember when my parents were 40’ish. I thought they were so old. Of course, my mom had lived a difficult life, so she always was a little older than her years. I guess maybe I am, too.

But 40 isn’t so old anymore, and I don’t think it is just because we/I am now 40..I think because it is a different world now.

You guys remember when we were teens, say 13, 14? Our parents would drop us at the mall on Friday or Saturday nights and that’s what we did. We had a few dollars for a pretzel or bread sticks at Pizza Hut and we hung out till the mall closed and our parents would pick us up. My 13 year old asked if he could go hang out at the mall a couple of weeks ago with his friends  during the day, at that, and I couldn’t believe I was even hesitant, let alone that I eventually said no. Again, the world is just so different now.

40! Already. Seems like just yesterday I was standing on a chair at Bennigan’s, tapping the salt and pepper shakers and dancing in my chair while the servers/my friends sand the Bennigan’s Happy Birthday song to me…

(except, obviously I am not Grant Miller and youtube did not exist 19 years ago..you know, we barely had color television back then..)

So many things have changed since then. My weight – ha. A year later I met my husband. We had a son. We have lived in 7 different states through out the country. My – OUR – oldest  son is now, at 20, a US Marine. I have two dogs – and no one would have thought – even me – that I would be the dog lover that I am! So much so that I want to own my own doggie day care..that on my bucket list is to spend time at Dog Town.

The one I thought would be my best friend forever, we had been best friends since we were 12..I last spoke to her when I was 26, 13 years ago.  How things change.

I have learned so much through the years …

Complaining doesn’t change a thing. While yes, things could be better, they could always be worse. Look around, be grateful for what you have.

God will never give you more than you can handle. It may feel like it sometimes, but he knows your strength. Trust him.

Money is not the most important thing in life. It helps, but is not the most important. (It is difficult to say and believe this, being unemployed at the moment I am writing..but, it is true. I know it..I just have to remind myself – often.)

Yes, Goose, they have a nicer car than I do. You know what that means? They are deeper in debt than we are.

Yes, I have a big house. You know what that means? We owe the mortgage company a lot more than the family next door with the smaller house. We have a higher electric bill than they do. We have a lot more empty rooms now that we are down to one kid and us than they do.

That you should appreciate you parents while they are here (though that doesn’t mean I can’t complain)…

I have also learned, or rather realized, that our generation had the best childhoods..we had some “technology”..but still played outside and had imagination…

So, Happy 40 to me..and Tiffany (we “met” when we were 15 ‘ish and she stole my boyfriend – we have the same birthday…)…

Too old to be wild and free…too young to be over the hill…

50 Lessons Life has taught … Regina Brett


My sis posted this on Facebook (and she stole it from my nieces blog), I liked it – and, being sick for as long as I have been, my creative mind is on shut down – so here are some life lessons from someone else… that I couldn’t have said better myself..

50 Lessons Life Taught Me

By Regina Brett

To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I’ve ever written. When my odometer rolled over to 50, I updated the list.

Here it is:

  1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
  2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
  3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
  4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
  5. Pay off your credit cards every month. (Learning this one the hard way)
  6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
  7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
  8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
  9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck. (Not that this is the post to argue politics, but thanks Obama – we may never retire)
  10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
  11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
  12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
  13. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
  14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
  15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.
  16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
  17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
  18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.
  19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
  20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
  21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
  22. Overprepare, then go with the flow.
  23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
  24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
  25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you. (I have so many people I would LOVE to actually say this to..)
  26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?” (not just disasters, but disagreements, especially with your children)
  27. Always choose life.
  28. Forgive everyone everything.
  29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
  30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
  31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
  32. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch. (No one ever put on the headstone “I wish I had spent more time at work”)
  33. Believe in miracles.
  34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
  35. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger. (It’s true)
  36. Growing old beats the alternative – dying young.
  37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
  38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.
  39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
  40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
  41. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
  42. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
  43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
  44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
  45. The best is yet to come.
  46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
  47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
  48. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
  49. Yield.
  50. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift… (Amen!)